A Mama’s Choice
by Lucinda Secrest McDowell
A few years ago my eldest daughter chose life – to become a mother. And it caused me to think back to the choice I made the day I walked out of a Seattle courtroom as her new mother.
Do you remember when you first became a mama? Parenting is a privilege, an honor, and lifelong commitment. We are not only life-givers at the beginning, but every subsequent choice we make either gives life to our child or takes a piece of it away.
Our Heavenly Father knows all about hard choices. Though His own children had rejected Him time and time again, God always offered them a second chance – a choice: “Choose life, so that you and your children may live and that you may love the Lord Your God, listen to His voice, and hold fast to Him.” (Deuteronomy 30.19-20)
Love Him. Follow Him. Obey Him. And the reward? Life. A full life. Who wouldn’t want that for their children?
And yet, even the best parent falters and fails. I know I have.
I entered motherhood with great desire and determination to pour love, courage, joy and hope into the boys and girls God entrusted me with for such a short time. And I meant it. So I tried to do it – with a full measure of grace and mercy.
But sometimes I made poor choices. Have you ever chosen self over others; temper over temperance; control over release; fear over trust; loud over quiet; or settled into lethargy rather than actively respond to God? Yeah, me too.
Eventually, my ultimate choice was to parent with the grace I had received – allowing my children to learn the hard way, even to fail. To help them know that God (and I) offer second chances, actions have consequences, and choices do make a difference.
Wouldn’t you like to be a Mama who:
- Promotes Security – assuring children they are accepted and loved, no matter what.
- Offers Significance — helping them understand their unique gifts and leanings and then urging them to courageously pursue all God has for them.
- Provides Strength – cultivating inner fortitude to keep going in difficult times and placing their hope in God.
Think of the ever-widening ripple effect of such a choice for life. Our children will change a future we will never see!
As I hold my grandchildren close, I believe this with all my heart.*
under the mercy, Cindy
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